Friday, August 19, 2011

On Divorce Bill (for mycolumn; first ish of Pink Seekers 2011-12)

Till Divorce Do Us Apart

Broken hearts, broken vows, broken homes.

Marriage was the sacrament for union of two people, given with God’s grace to live life as one ‘til death do them apart. This was until divorce was made legal among nations and tore up the sanctity of this sacrament.

We humans ourselves are the reasons why and how divorce came about. Back then – many, many years ago – divorce was first allowed in the Bible by Moses because the people were too stubborn and so hard to teach.

This continues through generations and at present, only 6 countries without divorce are left. Our Philippines is one. Yet unfortunately, Divorce Bill is here now, being processed on senate.

With this, it’s as if annulment had not been enough to us. I’ve asked several about annulment’s difference with divorce and wondered why there’s a proposal of the Divorce Bill when annulment already exists in the country.

As I researched, annulment is invalidation of marriage in law, while divorce is a complete legal disunion of the 2 married persons. Divorce has a deeper history and meaning. Still, both are sinful and against Catholic beliefs, which is what most of our country’s population practice.

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Other religions accept divorce but aside from religious points, I know divorce is not a solution to marriage failures. In the first place, if there are problems between the couple, those are for them to resolve together, not separately. Would ending their marriage fix everything? No. it would only leave broken hearts, broken vows, and broken homes. It’s just as same as cracks on glass cannot be fixed by breaking the whole thing down; worse is that this would only leave debris and you end up hurting yourself picking up those little pieces.

No one would want a broken family. The most affected would be the couple’s own children. That’s why married couples should strive to make their relationship strong so it could withstand all circumstances. If a storm may come, never suggest ending the marriage. Work it up and hope for the sun to shine again. When we always look at the bright side of life, things get better.

I really hope those people in charge would consider things. I believe they’d not want their own homes broken when things get rough. Passing the Divorce Bill would only trigger people’s hopelessness in marriage. One big failure...they’d not work hard for patching it up since anyway, divorce would already be there. Sign this and sign that, voila! Easy as that, the marriage would be destroyed. Vows vanished. Forever, ended then and there.

I say no to divorce. I hope you do so, too.